You deserve it.
This kept standing out to me, and it got me thinking. What does it mean to "deserve" something?
Okay, I know what it means. Somehow by our character or actions, we qualify to receive whatever we've gotten. But it kept bugging me.
In ASL, we generally use the same sign for "deserve" and "earn," and in a lot of cases, they feel pretty interchangeable. So why does something tell me they're not the same thing this situation? Maybe it's this:
What does not getting it mean?
If some particular good-thing hasn't happened for me, does that mean I don't deserve it? (And of course, this doesn't just go for me, but anyone who hasn't gotten whatever that good-thing is.) Please don't say that's true, because I'm plenty good at beating up on myself already. ;)
Or then there's this:
What if someone doesn't deserve it but gets it anyway?
Clearly if there's any real meaning to "deserving" anything, it's possible to be undeserving. So if there are people who deserve but don't get, there are likely people who get but don't deserve.
But what does any of that mean? And how does anyone decide? What is it based on?
What's the point of saying it? Maybe everyone deserves everything, or no one deserves anything. Either way, the statement feels empty to me.
Personally, I'm going to stick to the following:
I'm so happy for you!
This is so exciting.
Good luck on the next step.
Or something along those lines. Because maybe they deserve it, maybe they don't, but it doesn't matter. They got it.
Whatever "it" is. :)